My Siblings

I have one brother and two sisters.

I didn't grow up with all of them.
Actually, I spent my first 15 years with my eldest sis.
It was like a love-hate relationship at that time; I was blamed for getting all the attention.
However, it didn't leave a trail of bad feelings when we grow up.

My eldest sis joined my parents, brother and younger sis in KL when she was 18; So I was left alone back home with aunts and uncles.

I was brought up in an environment of responsibilities, love and care, in fact, very much protected and strict.
I had quite a tough time in learning to be independent; in a way that no one is 'hurt' and very 'carefully', just to gain enough trust for me to handle my own things!
And.....turn out to be, I'm 'in-charge' of everything now, at home I mean!

It was not easy to go through childhood like this, got a little confused at times.

And now, having my own family, still far away from my siblings but I thank God, my parents and all my old folks for giving me such great and supportive siblings who never fail to stand by me when I needed them.

I hear a lot from my friends talking about their siblings or incidents happen at home.
Sometimes, I find it difficult to understand certain situations that they are in.
They can be rather calculative among themselves at times.
They tend to protect themselves and sacrifice their siblings if the situation only allowed to have one positive side, and so on and so on........

Whew....! Shedding the sweat from my forehead! I'm grateful my siblings are not like that!

Well, apart from our parents, the next closest persons-having blood tie, would have been our siblings before we have any kids.
Isn't it amazing? We should be thankful and treasure these bonds that God and our parents have created for us.
I do. I'm glad that we are so close.
Praying that these bonds last forever as they were meant to be from the beginning.

My dear friends, if you have not been giving your siblings a call, a gift, a hug or just a simple 'hello',
do it now, you are blessed to have siblings!

你的爱是往下流还是反向上？

这几天为了家里的几位老者，忙得不可开交。四位年龄加起来整300岁，家里的药罐与种类排起来也挺像间小药行。

为了他们，无形中我必得学会及懂得一点药物、药性、症状、护理、等等医药知识。

结果，在家里，就被家人取了一个外号叫‘王医生’，是没执照、冒牌的那种。

看护老者，是一件非常吃力及费神的事。他们都是在人生路上走过大半辈子的人；什么都比你老练。和他们相处要很技巧及小心。

何谓技巧？老者说话，你要听。

尽管他说的含糊，你也得猜想他的心思而有所回复或为他办事。因为他们从来都不喜欢直截了当的告诉你他们要的是什么。他们喜欢看你有没有把心思放在他们身上。

而小心呢？那就是虽然他们常为了要你的注意而多做了些小动作；你也不能疏忽或掉以轻心，有时候，那可能是真的申诉；需要给与处理。

和他们相处，让我领悟很多，也得到很多。只是有时候却令我很伤感，久久不能自已。看着他们，我深感岁月的无情。
眼看着他们的健康慢慢的被腐蚀，行动上及其它的障碍令他们终日无所事事。好像剩下来的日子就是重复着吃、睡、痛、这般的循环生活，意义何在呢？我家的老者还好一点，至少还可等我们回来陪吃晚饭、看电视、谈天。有一些老者时间多的是，但是却是在等着最后的那一天。

虽然我是天主教徒，深懂得这个世界上的家是暂时的，最主要得活得有意思。但是对没受过教育、没社交生活、没朋友的老者，这条道理是挺难明了的。

曾经有一位朋友被问起：如果你的妈妈及女儿都患上了肾病而你的肾是非常的适合他们，但是你只能捐出一个，你会捐给谁？这位朋友想也不想的就说当然是捐给我女儿啦！

过后我也把这问题问了几位朋友，答案都是一样。

如著名作者，刘墉先生所说，爱是往下流的。这好像是成了不成文的共识，众所周知，大家都是这般，没人觉得不对或是不妥。必要时，都会把老者牺牲掉。

但是当我想到有一天我变成老者时，也被遗弃遗忘，不被重视或是可以说，如上所述，连生存的权力也会被剥削而自然的被牺牲掉。朋友，你会想到此觉得喉头有股酸酸的涌上来吗？

唉！好好的想想吧！你的爱只是往下流或是还有反向上的呢？