Friday, April 16, 2010

你是个可怜的雇主吗?

从我女儿三岁起我便有雇用女佣。
想想也用了十七个年头。照常理说,我该是很了解及明白和女佣相处之道。
可惜,这次,我是认命了。
我的柬浦寨女佣把我的家搞得鸡犬不宁,没骗人,真的是‘鸡不宁’!

以下我就贴上我寄给代理的投诉信件,让大家了解一下女佣的问题可去到哪?

Dear sir/madam,

I am writing this to give you a true picture of this maid, Sea Kranh and wishing that you will put yourself in my shoes while reading this and help me out.


1. In the beginning, Kranh always cried, complained of headache, stomach ache, pain and tiredness every now and then within the first 24 hours. I have called your staff, Ms Oum Chin who had spoken to her on the phone. However, Kranh insisted on going back to Cambodia and refused to work.

2. My agent, Ms Cecilia Aw took her back to give her training on how to do very ‘basic’ house chores. After a few days, Cecilia sent her back to my place to work, along with the guidance of a skillful Indonesian maid.

During that time, her working attitude and performance were as bad but we tolerated as she has ‘improved’ a little by not rejecting working. Also one of my elderly people was admitted in hospital, we were truly in need of people to help with the house works. But she was still the same, always liked to sob, walking around restlessly when she did not want to work.

In fact, she is still the same now. Here’s how she behaved regularly…








3. As mentioned, I have my elderly admitted in hospital. Thought that she could not do the house chores; for a change, I sent her to take care of the sick instead. My aunt underwent a major surgery; she needed people to assist her. But I was shocked to learn that she did not stay in the room but roamed about outside the room talking to other maids.

I scolded Kranh and warned her not to leave my aunt. And she disappointed me again.


I arrived there, she was sleeping soundly, my family walked in with noise but she heard nothing. I can even snap her picture! My aunt asked me to take Kranh away since she was of no use.

In the end, I paid RM80 per 10 hours for the off-duty nurses to do the job while my aunt was in hospital for 10 over days.

I felt even more ashamed when the patient of the opposite bed complained that Kranh actually asked biscuits from her. I gave Kranh enough food. Whatever we ate, she had them. She even poured away the breakfast that my old people bought for her; twice.

I was very upset that she behaved this way. And all these scenarios in the hospital happened in just one (1) day!

She was sent back to Ms Cecilia again. But every time, she will request to come back to my place and agreed to work well yet it always turned out to be a lie.

4. Due to her attitude and poor performance, I just gave her easy job; sweeping, mopping, washing the dishes. I still hire local helpers to clean my house because she always came up with new ideas to refuse to work.

Sometimes in the evening, a breeze or wind brought in some dust and leaves. We asked her to sweep again but she refused and said that she had swept it that morning and her arms and hands are tired and painful.

There was once, she leaked the gas which eventually filled up my whole kitchen, fortunately no disaster happened as we found out sooner. So, boiling or cooking she could not handle too.

5. I have a Labrador dog, a very good and tame dog. When we asked Kranh to learn to bathe him, horrible thing happened. While we were working a lather of soap on my Clifford’s (the dog) back, she did the legs and the lower part of Clifford’s. After a few seconds, we saw blood drops dripped from Clifford’s penis! We quickly stopped her. I don’t know how that can happen or how did she do it, maybe with her nails but I do think she is insane. It was so fortunate that my Clifford did not bite her as we stopped her in time.

6. Today, unintentionally, I caught her red-handed while stealing food. It was the dog food that we had just prepared (it was actually clean and well cooked internal chicken organs) and asked her to keep in the fridge.

Because of this, we finally realized that she stole some other food too; on top of ample food were given. She would steal food like fruits, dates, biscuits and etc.









7. This was taken today while she was nowhere to be found. She was catching a nap at 1.15pm. I told her to wake up at 7am every day. We gave her an alarm clock. She woke up at 7.40am this morning and after a few hours, she sleeps again. She had never been early in getting up in the morning somehow.


I have been hiring maids for more than 16 years. I have had quite difficult maids before though but we managed to get it over and lived under the same roof harmoniously. But this Kranh is the unexpected worst maid that I can imagine. I thought it was the language barrier; she pretended she could not understand but to my surprise, friends and other people in my family heard her saying, ‘banyak letih’, ‘pain’, ‘can I?’ etc.

The agent here, Ms Cecilia has been helpful in trying to train her for me but Kranh is really difficult. I have no choice to send her back to your place.

From my observation and my family’s too. Kranh is a smart person. But she has no heart to work. She is lazy, she wants comfortable life and a lot of food but without working. That’s the main reason she wants to be back to my place, there’s less work and more food here. But she is cunning, manipulating and likes to lie. I can’t have a maid like this around; paying her every day but not performing.

I am truly disappointed with her.

Thank you and please let me know your moves as soon as possible. I would be very much appreciated for a prompt action to be taken from your company and a favorable answer.


这封信寄出后,吉隆坡的总代理也没回复,只叫我们把女佣送回去辅导。结果,送回来后还是老样子,情况更糟糕,有过之而无不及!
趁我不在家时,她干脆躲进房里睡觉。
家里的老人家唤她出来工作,她大声用她的家乡话呼喝回头,弄得老人家气急败坏。
她深懂得我们奈她无何,不喜欢就大声哭喊、开门出去溜达、在家里面来回踱步,把你弄得神经衰弱为止!

最可悲的是合约里说明没得换人,工作表现没担保!
她才来一个月,莫说薪金还没赚取,连预支的薪金都还没扣除。
这样的情形之下,是不准送回国的。

唯一可做的就是给他另找雇主。

我以为她不喜欢和老人家相处,因此,我的代理就让她去别些家庭试试。

结果,她一共试了四个雇主,每一个都耐不了几天就送回来了。
都是同样的投诉 : - 她不肯工作,也不会工作!没见过这么难搞的女佣。

现在,她有了一个外号, 叫做
‘极品’!(limited Edition)

而我却不知该如何!付了八千多零吉,得不到应有的服务,还得头痛该如何处置她!

为什么我国会和柬浦寨签署一个这么差劣条件的同意书,只有女拥有保障而雇主却可怜兮兮的?

有谁可以教教我?


后注:和一位做生意的朋友聊起。
她的业务需要很多的外劳,所以经常面对外劳问题,
她是一样的苦恼,亏损很大。

有一次,她的外劳逃跑了,但被她发现是在附近一间咖啡店里非法工作。
于是,她去报警抓他,哪知警察却说抓外劳不是他们的工作,叫她去移民厅。
去了移民厅,长官说:“Ah Moi, kau ingat kami sangat senang ar?" 把她气得七孔生烟。
她一再向他们理论,结果就敷衍她,说会采取行动。
她说,现在事过半年了,她还是见到那外劳在那工作!
她就白白的替人付了工作准证,人头税务,
工人却被人用了!

唉!你也是像我们那样的可怜雇主吗?

Sunday, January 3, 2010

I'm Sorry


I thought I have managed my depression well.

My BP is fine; I can sleep, I can eat, I can think, I can work.
I'm so glad that I've made it, at least, I thought so....

Until yesterday, I made a decision.
A decision that I never wanted to, yet I have to make.

I've always wanted to serve Lord; using the gifts that He has given me.
However, circumstances make things change.

I apologized to Him; for not being strong enough to get through this test.

I've tried and reconsidered but I have my health to consider too.

I start to have trembling hands again,
I couldn't sleep and not sleeping well,
My emotions get very unstable,
My pulse rate starts to accelerate,
I start to have butterfly in the stomach........and so on.....

Something not good is creeping in, I know this familiar feelings.

I feel so sorry for not tolerating, for not understanding God's mission for me.
I'm scare to fall back to what I have been trying so hard to get out of.

I'm SORRY.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Coming Back

Taken 'rest' for some time.

Feel like giving it a try to get back on track, so work out a few errands and I'm dead tired.
Feel so useless and incapable.

Friday, November 13, 2009

STRESS

Just 'got out' of hospital.
Still feeling a little dizzy at times.

Trying to adjust or rather....reconsider my life style - to be more careful; away from this heavy word : STRESS

To be more precise: is not to stay away (I think no one ever manages to stay away, I assume!) but to manage it well.

I thought all these years I was trained and have managed it quite well.
However, it just secretly sneaked in without I realizing it.
When I found out that I did have some symptoms, it was too late.

I got annoyed just by a little comment or phrase,

even little thing like when my son told me about something happened in school.

I get tired very easily.

I felt lazy to talk;
even avoid answering phone calls because it's annoying to communicate.

More thoughts rolling inside my mind;
more planning working inside my mind to meet the datelines.

Dreamt more often than ever.

Knew that something has gone wrong, trying m
y best to relax, trying to find something that can amuse myself, but all didn't work.

Then, my blood pressure shot up.........
Wanted to slow down my pace in everything,
following doctor's advice to double up my dosage.....
But this monster has occupied every inch of my body, it kept elevating...
till it was 202/110, I felt like I'm going to die any minute.

Doc said one drug can't get it down, might have to administer one more.
So added one 'Plendil' and a 'Laxotant', demanded to rest.

But everything went hay-wired.

My blood pressure plunged down while my pulse rate racing up to 105/min.
Again, I thought I was going to have a 'cardiac arrest'!
I couldn't breath nor talk;
I felt weak and terrible;
whole body perspiring and shaking due to the fast pulse rate;
numbness all over;
and I thought 'This is it' like Michael Jackson's last song!
But I didn't give up.

I said to God,"Please stay with me, do not abandon me!"
I said to my beloved dad,"Pa, please stay with me and help me!"


And I managed to call for help and was sent to hospital.
I thank God for this.

I am writing all these to share with you all is to mark a 'reminder' for myself
and to all my loved ones.


Sometimes, things just happened, and it can be so fast that you'll never know.

I am learning now; to take my tasks in a manner of not existing my health's limits.
So watch out for yours too!









Sunday, October 25, 2009

My Siblings



I have one brother and two sisters.

I didn't grow up with all of them.
Actually, I spent my first 15 years with my eldest sis.
It was like a love-hate relationship at that time; I was blamed for getting all the attention.
However, it didn't leave a trail of bad feelings when we grow up.

My eldest sis joined my parents, brother and younger sis in KL when she was 18; So I was left alone back home with aunts and uncles.

I was brought up in an environment of responsibilities, love and care, in fact, very much protected and strict.
I had quite a tough time in learning to be independent; in a way that no one is 'hurt' and very 'carefully', just to gain enough trust for me to handle my own things!
And.....turn out to be, I'm 'in-charge' of everything now, at home I mean!

It was not easy to go through childhood like this, got a little confused at times.


And now, having my own family, still far away from my siblings but I thank God, my parents and all my old folks for giving me such great and supportive siblings who never fail to stand by me when I needed them.

I hear a lot from my friends talking about their siblings or incidents happen at home.
Sometimes, I find it difficult to understand certain situations that they are in.
They can be rather calculative among themselves at times.
They tend to protect themselves and sacrifice their siblings if the situation only allowed to have one positive side, and so on and so on........

Whew....! Shedding the sweat from my forehead! I'm grateful my siblings are not like that!


Well, apart from our parents, the next closest persons-having blood tie, would have been our siblings before we have any kids.
Isn't it amazing? We should be thankful and treasure these bonds that God and our parents have created for us.
I do. I'm glad that we are so close.
Praying that these bonds last forever as they were meant to be from the beginning.

My dear friends, if you have not been giving your siblings a call, a gift, a hug or just a simple 'hello',
do it now, you are blessed to have siblings!

你的爱是往下流还是反向上?


这几天为了家里的几位老者,忙得不可开交。四位年龄加起来整300岁,家里的药罐与种类排起来也挺像间小药行。

为了他们,无形中我必得学会及懂得一点药物、药性、症状、护理、等等医药知识。

结果,在家里,就被家人取了一个外号叫‘王医生’,是没执照、冒牌的那种。

看护老者,是一件非常吃力及费神的事。他们都是在人生路上走过大半辈子的人;什么都比你老练。和他们相处要很技巧及小心。

何谓技巧?老者说话,你要听。

尽管他说的含糊,你也得猜想他的心思而有所回复或为他办事。因为他们从来都不喜欢直截了当的告诉你他们要的是什么。他们喜欢看你有没有把心思放在他们身上。

而小心呢?那就是虽然他们常为了要你的注意而多做了些小动作;你也不能疏忽或掉以轻心,有时候,那可能是真的申诉;需要给与处理。

和他们相处,让我领悟很多,也得到很多。只是有时候却令我很伤感,久久不能自已。看着他们,我深感岁月的无情。
眼看着他们的健康慢慢的被腐蚀,行动上及其它的障碍令他们终日无所事事。好像剩下来的日子就是重复着吃、睡、痛、这般的循环生活,意义何在呢?我家的老者还好一点,至少还可等我们回来陪吃晚饭、看电视、谈天。有一些老者时间多的是,但是却是在等着最后的那一天。

虽然我是天主教徒,深懂得这个世界上的家是暂时的,最主要得活得有意思。但是对没受过教育、没社交生活、没朋友的老者,这条道理是挺难明了的。

曾经有一位朋友被问起:如果你的妈妈及女儿都患上了肾病而你的肾是非常的适合他们,但是你只能捐出一个,你会捐给谁?这位朋友想也不想的就说当然是捐给我女儿啦!

过后我也把这问题问了几位朋友,答案都是一样。

如著名作者,刘墉先生所说,爱是往下流的。这好像是成了不成文的共识,众所周知,大家都是这般,没人觉得不对或是不妥。必要时,都会把老者牺牲掉。

但是当我想到有一天我变成老者时,也被遗弃遗忘,不被重视或是可以说,如上所述,连生存的权力也会被剥削而自然的被牺牲掉。朋友,你会想到此觉得喉头有股酸酸的涌上来吗?

唉!好好的想想吧!你的爱只是往下流或是还有反向上的呢?

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

朋友说我跳呼啦圈很性感,你说呢?



小弟练了一段日子,总算有点成绩。不过,只是样子挺有娱乐性的!好好欣赏吧!